Some people like to fool themselves. I was married for 7 years, between 22 and 29 years old. It was a bad situation and I'm not going there again. So, move forwards a few years, I met this woman just 3 years younger than I am. We're dating and everything is going okay. But from the start I told her "I won't marry you. I have my place, you have yours; you can spend some days at my place, I can spend some days at yours, but eventually I will want a few days for myself at my own place, and marriage is out of question". She said "oh that's okay, it's a good compromise, plus I make more money than you so I don't need a new place to stay". Now, we've been in this relationship for almost 2 years. But then she starts saying things like "we could join our stuff in one apartment and rent the other" and I'm like "you remember I said NO MARRIAGE AT ALL?" But she says "it's not marriage, it's for practical reasons". She know FULL WELL that "living together" counts as marriage for legal purposes in our country. So I told her "no, we're not doing that". Now she's fucking MAD at me. I'll end this relationship, as it is not good for anyone anymore, and I'm sure she'll paint me as an asshole to her friends and family. But fuck that. I TOLD HER two years ago, when we started dating. NO. MARRIAGE. AT. ALL. Why won't people listen?