I really want to dissuade my sister-in-law from having a kid. She's super depressed (at least she's on therapy now), her marriage isn't going well (but I hope this can be fixed with therapy), and I don't know from where she got this idea that having a kid will actually save her from depression. I won't say a word, of course. It isn't my marriage or my mental health and well-being. But if I could, I would have her wait one or two more years, to see if therapy improves her depression and marriage, before trying to get pregnant. She can wait, she's only 28.