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I'm bisexual but I'm scared to come out. My husband would probably be ok with it. One of his best friends is a lesbian and he knows I'm a big LGBTQ+ supporter. I think he already gets a vibe I'm attracted to girls. I'm just scared to tell him when I say "I'd go gay for _____", it's not a joke. If we weren't together and I wasn't hiding in the closet, there are several women I would completely fall in love with. But I'm scared. Once I say it, I can't take it back. And my family is a pretty conservative, Christian, Republican bunch. There's one cousin who I know would be okay with it because she's a liberal, Democrat, and best friends with at least one gay person. That cousin, her husband, and their grown kids would totally be okay with it. But everyone else...probably not so much. As far as I know, I'm the only non straight person in the whole family (including my husband's family). I don't even **need** to come out. I'm not leaving my husband for a woman or anything. I could live as a passing for straight woman for all my life and nothing would change. But I don't want to hide this part of me. But I also don't want to ruin my relationship with all of my family so I can tell them "Hey, I'm attracted to girls especially blondes with short hair". I don't know what's worse: Coming out to my Mawmaw and Grandma and having them reject me; or never coming out to them, they die, and I'm left wondering if they would've accepted me and should've known. For now, I think I might only come out to my husband and maybe some coworkers if it comes up in conversation. And maybe that one cousin, but we don't talk that much.

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  • It's fine to tell a select group of people. I think sometimes there's too much of a focus on Coming Out as this one big time life event. I tell people who I feel can be trusted with that information/part of me, and otherwise let it come up organically in conversation. I've never really considered myself In so there's no reason to come Out. I get what you mean about passing for straight tho. One reason I have bothered to tell certain family I'm bi is because I want any secretly lgbt+ family to know I'm a safe person for them. So far 2 people have approached me after I've randomly mentioned my orientation with family. Just remember theres no wrong way to be bisexual, and do whatever keeps you safe and happy.

  • If they were real christian they would love you no matter what because chist loved everyone no matter what...

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