So Me and my sister have an abusive mom, our dad and step mom are no better. Our mom is emotionally abusive and manipulative, she is diagnosed with BPD but refuses to take medication for it because she doesn't want to, but I don't really know if I should consider her a bad person because I wanna be empathic towards her but at the same time she has destroyed many things in my life. Me and sister are teaming up behind her back to move out eventually in the next few years, although freedom is so close, it feels wrong at the same time. When I get somewheres where I'm on my own or with my sister, I won't know what to do with myself because I've been walking on eggshells for my entire life avoiding getting shit from any of my parental figures in my life, they claim that I should appreciate them because they are my parents but I have a hard time doing that, not because I'm incapable, mainly because I have a hard time appreciating people that have done very little to help me out in life. lol. idk if I'm an ableist for calling my mom a bad person but... damn... if I am Im sorry.