My parents are fighting right now, I'm 24, female, and can't do anything about it? why? because my mom is physically (there was a knife involved once) and verbally abusive. It all leads to an issue of may dad cheating 40 years ago. That's it, I thought my dad was forgiven but hell no, every year maybe 150 days on 365 days, my mom will bring the issue of the past along with her problem among my dad's relatives. I really want to tell her that 'Hey mom.. if you can't forgive dad why didn't you left him or just let him go, instead of bringing up the past whenever you have the time, which is most likely everyday.' I am just thankful that my dad is not a physically abusive person, he did answer/shouts back once or twice then he's quiet. I am really really sad, I am not taking sides, they both have faults. But if I am my dad I'll surely leave my mom years ago, and this leads to trust issues, yeah you bet, I'm 24 and still stuck here at home, while my schoolmate/friends from college either have a baby or married or happy. Because my parents, especially my mom is so strict, to the point where you have to go home exactly at 5 pm if you're not doing anything important (just hanging around), where you can only go out once a month or never. Where I can't have a bf just because she does not trust guys in general, my dad is her first, that is why I am guessing she did not know how to get hurt, fall and stand up. The sad thing here? I can't do anything about it, this has been going on for years since I was a kid. I am not in a country where you can call 911 or leave when you're 18. My mom likes reading everyone's personality and tell to your face that you are this kind of person, sadly... she can't see her own. Thanks confesster... at least I have someone to tell this to. I really don't want to bother friends with personal probs.