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I am 18 years old, and I only ever had one boyfriend. I didn't take the relationship too seriously, because I'm still young and we only knew each other for a short time, but after a week of "dating" (if you can even call it that, he never even made the effort to take me on a real date) he startet saying things like "I don't want you to move in with your friend after you finish school, I want you to move in with me" and "I am going to give up my job for you, because I don't want to move away for you. If you don't want me to give up my job, you have to come with me." . He wanted me to move across the country and he was dead serious. He never listened to me, and everything was only about him. I was suicidal for a pretty long time, and although I told him, he always kept on talking badly about depression and how it is not a serious matter. He made me pull his weight on a hike, because he had forgotten his insoles, and when I offered the place in the wagon to my friend, wo fell and injured herself really badly, he refused to get out, because he thought his fragile, dainty little feet were far too precious to touch solid ground. I made a lot of effort to make the relationship work, but it only lasted a month, and although he was very sweet before we started dating, he was a horrible person as soon as I said that I'll be his girlfriend. I ended up cheating on him a few days before I had the chance to break up with him, but in my heart, the relationship was already over. Still, I feel awful about it. I know he was horrible to me and that I really tried, and that I was only still together with him because he could not even make time to see me (I wanted to break up in person, because I felt that he deserved to have a chance to talk to me, but he took the chance to insult me, although I never told him I had cheated) and I know I was far out of his league and everyone thought I did him a favour by even dating him, but still ... He stalked me for a while after that, and I think I might have really hurt him. And although he is the most annoying, ugly and impolite little pest I have ever met in my entire life, I feel bad. I'm sorry for the long story, but I just had to get it off my chest.

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  • You did the right thing. I was in a similar situation when I was eighteen and these kinds of men don't like you for you but the idea of you. He totally dismissed your mental condition. So u may have hurt him but it is only because of his selfish expectations of you. When some tries to rush a relationship along its because there are red flags they hope you'll miss before you wind up attached to them. Good on you for moving on. Don't even remain in contact. Be happy.

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