I am sick and tired of people feeling insecure in their relationships. Lesson Four: If you are not honest, you have no trust. Without trust, there is no intimacy. Without intimacy, there is no relationship. You must be honest, ask for what you want, tell the whole truth of how you feel and why, and compare expectations early in the relationship to avoid disappointment. If you are too embarrassed, worried, fearful, or generally uncomfortable enough not to do so, then you should not be in a relationship.