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I am a 17 year old tans guy. I have realized this trans thing about a year ago but was too afraid to come out to anyone. Now my girlfriend (16; aka my best friend of 7 years) and I have been together since last march. To her, am just a butch lesbian, although I never identified as one. In fact, am a straight guy. I feel like I should tell her, but our one year anniversary is soon and those kinda things are extremely important to her. There's a chance she's not gonna take it well and I don't wanna break her heart just before the anniversary. Also, I don't think it's appropriate to wait any longer. It's like am decieving her. I am so confused right now.

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  • I had a (now ex) bf that lied to me about his trans secret life, and that hurt more than if he had been honest. Coming from the female perspective, I'd rather him have told me, rather than discovering it while I packed his stuff after he left me. I didn't find it awkward or bad or strange, and I kept his secret. I just wish I had known while I was with him-the way he left me was terrible and it was actually about his unexplored side, but he made it seem like it was all because I was terrible. I really think you should just talk to her. I don't know how... But if she kept a big secret about her identity from you, how would you feel? Not trying to guilt you at all.. I hope your answer comes to you.

  • Gender fluid guy here (maybe trans, idk) i think ymi know what you're feeling, i'm in the same position right now and i know this is going to come out sooner or later, right now i'm decided to tell my gf everything, how i feel, how i see myself and most important, how i feel about her and that i dont want to lose her. That's the reason why i think is better to tell her, because 1 or 2 years from now, i dont want to live a lie for myself and for her. I think that she has been completely honest whit me, so i think that if i want to spend the rest of my life with her, i owe her that. You just hacmve to made the right choice, in this case not only for you, but for the two of you. Good luck and stay strong.

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