My boyfriend's mother is extremely controlling, to the point of even telling him how he should pay his bills. He's 21. He is capable of making his own decisions. She's so stubborn and refuses to see that. She will always ask me to make sure he does what she says if he doesn't listen. I politely agree with her since she will not listen to reason, but I am not with him to boss him around. I love him. So, I never do what she asks.