I'm fairly certain that the relationship I have is over. we're going to therapy, and she's defensive in therapy. I try to talk to her, and she thinks hers is the only right way and gets defensive. my two girls are unhappy. they feel judged more than lived around her. yes, we still love each other, but love is not enough. If it was then no one would break up. greater then love is compatability and the willingness to evolve as the relationship evolves. I can't think about it too much. It makes my heart break out of my chest. I'll probably die alone.