my girlfriend didn't tell me she was raped untill we'd been dating for a year and a half. I know it was her descision when and if to tell me but I can't help but feel upset that she didn't tell me sooner. I don't think less of her for being raped (obviously) and I still love her the same, it's just I wish she'd told me sooner so I could have helped her more. I know it's not something I "deserve to know" (is it?) like "oh by the way I have a kid" or something that you should tell someone when you start dating but I feel like she didn't tell me because she didn't trust me enough not to accept her. Am I a bad partner for being upset that she didn't tell me earlier on in our relationship? Should she have told me sooner?