I just want my boyfriend to realize that his life affects me. I love him so much but I NEED him to get his act together for our future. we've been together four years. I understand he doesn't know what he wants to do with his life. I really don't either but at least I'm trying, that's all I wanted him to do. Is it selfish that I just want to make sure that he does well for the both of us. It's my life too and I would prefer him in it. the thing is I don't know if he can help take care of us in the next few years.