"just be yourself" is absolute bullcrap. it's okay to be someone else IF you like who that person is. if you don't like yourself... change. because a lot of the time people change so they can feel better about themselves. it's not always for other people. if my crush asked me to lose weight.... I'd lose weight. he's just telling me that I'm not at my full potential. if he teased me or complained about it, then I'd have a problem. This just bugs me. people can change who they are if they want to.