I'm a very, very shy 35 yo man. I'm so shy that it's hard for me to make new friends and even begin romantic relationship. I'm genuinely shy. But weirdly enough, I'm a dom (dominator, master, whatever). And the most successful relationship I had lasted 10 years with a strong woman who everyone said "wore the pants" behind our backs. Truth is she was completely sub to me. In our intimacy, she would not take a step without asking permission first, and she would do anything and everything I told her to.