I can't tell if my relationship is becoming abusive or not. I feel guilty a lot and I use to think I was abusive because I would make little mistakes,and he'd be really hurt. but now it's every little thing I do,he's got tears in his eyes. I can't do anything without upsetting him. if I decide to get up and not sit by him,he's so hurt. if I say to stop doing something that I'm just not in the mood for,he's putting his face down in his hands and refuses to speak to me... but then he goes and does all these sweet things for me,he's spent so much money on me and I never even asked for anything.. and I appreciate everything he's done but it's so hard when I'm treated like everything I do is an attack to him.. I can't be myself. I can't breathe without hurting him. is this emotional abuse?