I am a 21 year old female. I've had boyfriends before, and lost my virginity at 16. But I've never enjoyed sex. I love cuddling and all that, and I'd love to have sex. But it really hurts. Even if I'm really turned on and everything, it just hurts. I have heard people say "just relax" or "maybe he is too big?" or "Did you have any bad experiences...?". But that's not it. The guys I've been together with were all very caring. What do I have to do to enjoy sex?? I really really want to! Now I refuse having relationships because of this. I don't want my bf to feel unwanted or anything because I refuse sex.