so there was this girl wearing two sports bras - which i mistook for a chest wrap. she had short hair and was wearing a pretty gender neutral outfit of jeans and a t shirt. People always say to ask someone for their pronoun or if theyre trans, so I asked. this girl was straight and not trying to transition at all and felt really ugly after I asked. so now, if i ask someone and they're not trans that's terrible, and then if I don't ask and they are trans but not so much that you can tell - people get mad. what do I do?!?!