I don't judge you based on the size of your family. Three kids isn't an awful thing at all. But having three kids before you're twenty years old, each a year apart, that's what I judge. I'll judge you for not being prepared mentally or financially for every pregnancy and bashing birth control. One horror story of one woman's bad reaction to birth control doesn't mean anything towards condoms and pulling out. First pregnancy, I can blame on being young, naive, and embarrassed about asking for birth control. Second, just a coincidence? Third, get it together and figure out how to use a condom, woman. Your car can't hold anymore car seats.