My girlfriend was physically and sexually abused by her father from a young age until she was 12. I met her when she was 19 and was dealing with a lot of problems. At first it felt good helping her with her situation but now it is kind of annoying. She blames every problem In her life on him and won't get over it. Its in the past and she needs to move on and quit using that as a crutch. She has used it so much that I don't really feel bad for her anymore.