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I'm in college. Already a junior. Still didn't made any friends. I don't know what's wrong with me. Really..... I don't know... I just want friends. just a group of good friends I can hang out with outside classes. I'll be alright you know. Like I can't just tell them, "hey what's up and can I hang out with you, with your friends?" that be soo awkward. I'm just kinda tired of being lonely and alone and insecure because I'm alone. Being alone just makes me even more looking at my imperfections and ended up comparing myself to others. I keep trying to make connections but it's so hard. I'm not autistic or something but I can't do an eye contact because in my mind, I get nervous and my face turn red. And when it turn red my it gets too obvious. And I know eye contact is a key to socialization but it's so hard. I'm not dorming so I guess these people make friends in dorms.... and my high school friends, they're gone. Have their own friends and somehow forgotten about me. My best friend, moved to a different state, engaged and now also forgotten about me. My older college friends, they were my friends because of my brother. But they're gone too. All in graduate school. My brother is even gone, already in graduate school. And you see my friends are all 5 years apart from me. They're like my TA's age. I've been friends with them only for one semester. And I only hang with them during winters when they go home. But they're all over 21 and I'm not, so the drinking part, sometimes I can't hang out with them. And I can't deny this, I'm a product of long term bullying. I was bullied since 3rd grade. When I moved to the US as a kid, I have a culture shock and I became shy so I didn't made friends, in high school I move to different state (also a culture shock), still the same. I got bullied a lot too because my best friend is white (super blonde hair green eyed girl) and the state I live in is Asian dominant population and somehow some people are racist towards white people. So I got bullied and eventually developed anger against the world and people. That was I born, am I hated? am forsaken? After then I constantly lie for a certain image of me. A layered of masks full of different alter ego. But Sometimes I break that myself and show the monster in me. Maybe people sense it and avoid me. But now in college I moved on from that alter egos but the reminiscence of my past, it's hard to completely throw it away. Going through so much killed my mind. But I'm breaking it but why is it still hard to make friends in college? On my first semester, I ended up with friends who are narcissistic and negative... Somehow I see that they're like me. And I avoided them. But loosing them, I felt somehow lost.... Now I can't connect still. And now I even lost my job too so nothing is occupying my mind anymore but the stress of education. Sorry I know this is too much and it might get confusing. But if any of you are reading this, tell me what you don't understand. But thanks for reading this.

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  • Thank you guys. All are very helpful comments. I highly appreciate that and I'll consider it

  • you dont make friends for the sake of being friends, you bond over something, like a activity, hobby, even work. there needs to be something to connect and be friends over. otherwise youre both just standing there awkwardly ''sooo.. whats up''

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I'm taking medicine for baldness, i started really early so i still have a lot of hair and i don't look like i'm balding, but i don't want to take medicine anymore, i think it's affecting my health, it's expensive, and i don't feel good about it.. i feel like i'm not free, i can't just go on crazy adventures like i want to, i have to take my medicine bottles and use it everyday.. i'm 23, i know girls my age will be repulsed by me and treat me horribly with a shaved head, but i feel like it's ok, and i can wait a few years to meet more mature women.. it will just suck to be single for so long as i already feel sad for being single. but i'm tired of the medicine and feeling this way, i need to shave it

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  • I went bald at 22. Before that I had good hair that I was really proud of. I shave my head now. My wife likes it. Says I look more manly and intimidating now, where as before I looked kinda girly. My old nickname when I met her parents was "Barbie" because of my long blonde hair. Now they call me the Rock.

  • What sort of crazy adventure can’t you take a tiny pill bottle on?

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I hate feeling this alone. I'm in a house full of people, but due to our opposing schedules, I feel just so... isolated. Third shift life sucks. I hate being by myself all the time. I miss my family and my friends. But I don't have any other options right now.

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Being a nice person is fucking terrible. I always go out of my way to help people if I'm able to, and what do I get? I get treated like I'm absolutely worthless by the same people I went above and beyond for. Sometimes I wish I knew how to tell people to fuck off when they need help. Nobody ever helps me when I need it. Be an asshole. Being nice isn't worth it.

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  • Yeah I feel like everyone can just walk all over me and treat me like shit because I’m nice and they know I’ll contin to be. To be honest, I don’t know what good comes out of being nice, I don’t have many close friends or people who care about me even though I’m nice to everyone.

  • Being nice is absolutely worth it. But if you're only doing it to get things out of people, you're no better than them. Being nice is something you do because you like making things better for someone else, even just a little. Being an asshole doesn't reward anyone, not them, not you. It just makes you cold and bitter and reduces your chances of finding a decent person to talk to slim to none. At least being nice there's a chance.

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It hurts when you have many people around but nobody supports you. My family is just a bunch of assholes who mock, intimidate, and even they dont care whenever i'm ill. They just make me do whatever they want right at the moment or i will get punished. My friends are the same, they come when they need me to do smth for them but when i want to tell my stories they are not here because of many reasons. I'm stressed right now. Idk what to do. Feels like i want to kill myself. Argh.

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  • Those aren't your friends. Drop them. Find new friends.

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It feels like my heart is ripped out of my chest. I don't when, or if, I'll be able to see my nephew again. My house and my heart feels empty without him. I don't want him to grow up thinking I don't care about him, but if that's all his mom tells him and I can't be there to defend myself what can I do? Even if I get back in touch with him when he's grown up, he either won't remember me or he'll think I'm evil because that's what his mom said. It's not like I really did something wrong. All I did was turn down babysitting once and ignore a message from his mom. I'm not the antichrist. I would never hurt him. I didn't do anything to hurt anyone. I know I'm not perfect. But I don't deserve to hear that I'll never see my nephew again because of it. I don't care that his mom (my sister) hates me. She's hated me all 24 years of my life. But my heart hurts thinking I won't see his smile again, or get to hug him, or tell him how much I love him.

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  • Before, you said he's 5, right? He'll remember you. I remember family members I only met once at that age before they passed away. Kids tend to remember people they like. I still remember all the friends I had in kindergarten, what they looked like, how we acted around each other. I'm 22. He won't forget the kindness you have shown him.

  • You know I'd do anything to have my aunt be like you.. Eventually as he grows older he would want to hear your point of view of the story or maybe your sister will calm down.. I totally understand how you're feeling, but don't give up and maybe tomorrow everything will be different. I wish you all the best!

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I’m going to be homeless soon and I don’t know what to do and I wake up every morning wondering why the fuck I woke up.

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  • You seriously need a financial advisor, not asking internet-rando’s for help

  • If you have a car, make those payments. You can live in your car but you can't drive a house. If you don't have a car, put any money you have towards getting one. Maybe crash at a homeless shelter for a while (NOT salvation army, fuck them). Do anything you can to stay safe while you save up any money you can get. Maybe find a friend to stay with even. You can get through this. Don't lose hope.

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I've been out of school for a while, but recently started to get nightmares about it again. They come more and more frequently and become worse, making me actually exhausted when I wake up because I spent the whole time of the dream panting and clenching my muscles (not to mention how I can barely concentrate on anything because I can't forget the dream). I know what they mean; there's always a past trauma in the story. But I wish I knew why they're coming NOW. And how I can stop them.

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  • I was in my thirties before I stopped having dreams about being back in high school

  • This is very common. When reliving trauma, your brain often goes back to where it happened or a scene that feels emotionally similar to how you felt at the time- such as children feeling neglected often having nightmares about abandoned circuses. School dreams often represent feeling trapped (trapped in a schedule, not being able to leave the building, trapped emotionally by feeling obligated to give 100% of your effort) whether you felt trapped when the trauma happened, or if you feel 'stuck' in your life right now, like maybe you're not going anywhere in your job or you feel the need to get out of your house/neighborhood. Perhaps you never fully coped with your trauma and you need help processing it now; maybe you're just feeling trapped and it's triggering this response. Either way, I recommend you seek help if it's affecting your sleep and your waking life. I wish you the best.

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So I'm a 24 female. Since I was 16 I had strong sexual needs and I begun experiencing. Until recently I felt the need for intercourse almost daily (sometimes a few times a day) and it was wild and fun. Now I'm in a serious, committed, loving and caring 1.5 years old relationship and, since last 7-8 months, I don't feel the need for sex and I feel like something is wrong with me. My bf is understanding about this, but he is always horny and sometimes I just sleep with him just to please him. I feel broken. I want to have that urge again. (P. S. He is a beast in bed and looks athletic, I don't think the problem comes from him)

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  • Could be a hormonal imbalance or are,you taking any new medication? When I was on a certain antidepressant I had no sex drive at all. Basically stopped masturbating for five months.

  • You might just be vitamin deficient. You should talk to your doctor about it and see if they can help. The problem could also be hormonal

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This is not what I wanted to hear... This is exactly what I feared to hear.

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  • “I’m afraid you have CancerAIDS”

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