Ladies, I’m looking for advice on birth control. My old birth control pills were ridiculous and made me not want to have sex with my boo which is really annoying. Now we just use condoms. What has worked for you guys besides condoms?
I'm not sure how to word this properly, but I really want to share my excitement somewhere... I think I'm in my first poly relationship. I'm kinda dating this girl who has a boyfriend and he knows me and likes me, he's okay with her dating me and even encourages her to. I say I'm kinda dating her because we do everything a couple would do- we've even agreed that if we officially "declared" a relationship nothing would really change- but we haven't taken that step and officially declared it either. But she says she considers me her girlfriend, so I consider her mine too. And it feels so nice. I love her so much. I know a lot of people frown on poly relationships or think that it's cheating somehow, but no one is sneaking around here. No secrets are being kept. No lies are being told. It really is possible to love more than one person. And I'm so happy to be part of that.
I saw her a few days ago, she greeted me much to my surprise. We haven't spoke in my many yrs. I used to love her but never had a chance, she made that clear. I was the wrong kind of man for her, I see that now. And I failed as a friend too. The reasons are not clear to me now but I remember being her friend in the hopes that she thought maybe different of me in a weak moment. She had plenty. Her family were her parents and three older brothers. Her father was the only one decent, her mother was a nut case. But the 3 brothers were the worse because they were drug addicts. One of them raped her. But she seems alright now and she's better off without me as a fake friend. I truly hope she finds peace and happiness.
All I want is to adopt ten homeless cats and snuggle them every day
How come every time I fall in love with someone who might actually be good for me instead of settling for someone terrible, it always ends in me getting hurt? I'm so tired of getting heartbroken when I try to make good choices. Why can't I just be happy for once? Why can't I be loved? I keep trying so hard to convince myself I can't possibly be unlovable. But I'm 22 and still haven't managed to keep a single relationship for even a year. Maybe I am unlovable.
My crush and I have been flirting back and forth for a while. I started to think that maybe for once in my life, somebody actually liked me back. Well today I had to find out from someone else that he's secretly dating another girl. I don't know who she is... but I hope they're happy together.
If I think you're considering leaving I'm gonna leave first. No matter how I feel.
What’s your favorite childhood keepsake as an adult ?
I'm in a relationship and the sex is very bad. It's been 2 years and no improvement, and we've tried a lot. The problem here is that we're both each other's firsts - and I really can't tell whether it's so bad because we aren't compatible or because I generally don't like sex. To be honest, I feel like the latter is the case, but since I've never heard of anyone who doesn't like sex (except for asexuals, which I'm not), I rationally think this can't be true. I just wish there was a way to find out - trying someone else and still keeping the relationship is out of question though.