I don't like the way 'I almost broke up a marriage' as if you're the one to blame here. If you're married and cheat, you're the problem, not the person who wanted to sleep with you. Especially if you're the older one.

Am I the only one being confused about why crushing on older men makes your family move!?

ever think that how she is received when she does might influence her lack of intimacy.

my little sister is dealing with this. from her side it hurts her heart. she doesn't feel like she is enough and it makes me sad because she is more then enough. but some ppl think of sex as an act, like shaking hands where other ppl feel like it's about a connection. be respectful of her wishes and honest about your intent. and let her know she is everything and more to you if you want to be ok in the long run. kinks are hard when you don't lay them on the table before you make the commitment. you may have to suck it up and damage control if you can't see eye to eye and you don't want to loose her if you haven't already

go places you love and you will find like minded ppl who you may fall in love with or at least have a shot load of fun where it won't even matter

same here.. you just don't have to force it, when the time is right it will happen again

I say wait a little. My best friend once declared his love for me and I couldn't look him in the eyes anymore, but after some weeks he apologised and said that he's totally over it and that it was just a phase he had. Took another while to really get over it, but I'm now glad I didn't lose him. We sometimes bring it up again and laugh about it. I feel like in almost every man-woman friendship there's eventually the point of one of them thinking about the other one sexually or romantically, but mostly it's just a one-time-thing that passes again. Just see how he handles it, and go through a time of awkwardness, and maybe it will all be okay again.

I dont believe you...

make sure you get getting tested

it's completely normal, sometimes love is not enough

No it's actually totally normal. First of all, there are different kinds of love - you love your friends and your pet and your mom, but don't want to date them. Secondly, you can fall in love with someone and still know that it's not going to work out. Sometimes because of very logical reasons, like having different goals for the future or different ideas of how a relationship should look like. Sometimes we simply fall in love without being compatible, we love them from a distance but know we and them would never be good together. It's like loving spring time for all its beautiful colours, but not wanting to be there during April because you've got allergies and are miserable all the time.