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Today marks my one month anniversary with my boyfriend. I am happy beyond words that I have him. But recently I became afraid of something that isn't even a problem... yet. I'm afraid it will be in the future. See, the thing is, I'm 23, and I've been in several relationships at this point in my life. But my boyfriend... he's also 23, and I'm the first girl he's dated. I was his first kiss. This sounds incredibly sweet, and it is, but my fear is that... What if someday he feels like he's missing out by not dating anyone else? What if he just thinks he's so in love with me because I'm his first love, and he doesn't love me like that anymore once he loses the rose colored lenses of the honeymoon phase? I'm suddenly terrified that he's going to want to leave me later on. And I'm going to talk to him about this, because we believe in honesty and open communication. But I'm so scared to approach him about it. And I'm so scared of the future now. I hate my stupid anxiety disorder for making me feel like this.

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  • I totally understand your concerns but you know, no matter if you're his first or 14th, you can never be sure you will always stay in love and together. So don't overthink it and just enjoy the relationship! Love is the best thing on this planet so don't waste it by worrying :) (been there done that haha)

  • I would say this is a very legitimate concern. Still, if he really loves you, he would feel content in this relationship. But the only way you could know what he thinks is by asking him. Communication is the key

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I'm in a great relationship with a girl that I love, but I just can't bring myself to settle down never cheated on her but it's getting to a point I almost "need" to do it. I'm afraid it's starting to chip on the relationship I know I must sound like a piece of shit, but I'm a pretty ok guy... it's one part of me I don't know how to fix

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  • It's common to get cold feet, commitment can be scary. I also firmly believe that monogamy isn't the perfect solution for everyone. But it's on you to make a decision. Do you want to be alone forever? Having short, meaningless relationships here and there? Then go on and follow your urges. Do you really love her and don't want to lose her? Then unfortunately you just have to suck it up. The way life is, you sometimes have to make a choice between two things that seem impossible to choose between, and it's unfair that we have to choose, but there's no way around it. If you really want to, you can.

  • Maybe get some counseling? You shouldn't feel a 'need' to cheat. There must be something lacking in your relationship that's making you feel this way. And if the ONLY problem is that you're not ready to settle down... maybe tell her that? But if that's the case, do you really love her? I've only been in love twice, and both times, I wasn't ready to settle down either. But I wanted to. I knew I'd want to in the future. I know I want to keep this one. That should be enough for you to want to hold on to her. Your other option is, what, fucking around with other people? Why? What do you get out of that besides meaningless sex?

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My boyfriend thinks I'm cheating on him, all because of his Christmas present. I feel like I'm in one of those RomComs where a minor misunderstanding stirs up a lot of trouble. The story is: I had the perfect idea for a present for my boyfriend, so I texted my one male friend (who my boyfriend has always been jealous of) because said friend has some connections that might help me with that. He couldn't promise me to get it, but is trying. Now what you have to know is that my boyfriend and I are the "No secrets" type and look into each other's phones. And I forgot about deleting the chat history. Suddenly, my boyfriend wants to look up something on my phone, and while he's unlocking it, I panic and snatch the phone out of his hand. He could see me deleting the chat history with my friend. It turned into a big fight because I first didn't want to tell him why I did it, and when I finally admitted what it was about, it already sounded like I was trying to make excuses. And I can't even show him the chat for proof anymore. This probably sounds a bit like my boyfriend is overly jealous, but honestly, the way I acted and stuttered, if it was reversed, I would also assume he cheated. Especially because it happened with someone he already was cautious about. I really hate the situation, because I think he'll never get his proof and even if he eventually believes me, there will probably always be doubt. All because I wanted to make him happy.

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  • Can't you ask the friend to send screenshots of the chat? Or let your boyfriend call the friend to explain what it was about?

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Its hard to know whether she's falling in love woth me or someone new. What should i do to keep calm?

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A friend from work introduced me to his brother, and now some time later we're dating. Well today at work I was confused because I kept catching whiffs of my boyfriend's scent. Then I realized it was his brother that I kept smelling. DUH. It hadn't occurred to me that they'd smell similar since they're genetically almost identical. I'm embarrassed that his scent triggered feelings for my boyfriend.

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when I was 16 I was dating this girl. she was awesome I loved her so much. I got head from her for the first time. first time I ate pussy. first time I had sex. I loved this girl then we broke up. then my mom says I have a half sister on my dad's side. turns out the girl I loved was my half sister. I was heartbroken. we never told anyone about our past.

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  • Dang that's rough :/ Sorry dude

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I feel like I have to keep my feelings to myself. I hear those that I know say, "You can always talk to me". Once I start talking to them those same people decide they don't want to listen; or even worse, make you feel like something is wrong with you for having feelings, by giving harsh advice or opinions that you didn't ask for. Sometimes you just need someone to emphasize or plainly just listen.

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  • In my experience, the people who say "you can always talk to me" are the ones who you should NOT go to to talk. They just want to hear gossip or want to seem like a good person while they're not. At least mostly.

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My boyfriend is staying with me for the week while I've got the house to myself. We've been having such a nice time just enjoying each other's company and cuddling. I mean we've also been having amazing, mind blowing sex. But I'm just so happy to have him around. I can just reach over and hold his hand, I can give him a smooch, I can lay on him while he plays video games, I can talk to him, I can hold him while I fall asleep. I love him so much. He makes me so happy.

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I've been with my girlfriend for 4 years and for months I can feel myself losing interest. we don't have sex anymore and we already moved in together. I don't know what to do. I love her but not in a romantic way

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  • I had this too, we talked about it, changed some things and now I'm more in love than ever. There's hope.

  • Maybe talk to her about your feelings? Talk about how you guys can work to improve this.

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There's this girl I've been seeing, I like her a lot and i wanna make it 'official' but idk how to go about it...Any advice?

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  • Don't swat, talk about it with her normally. Just mention it in conversation. Ask her if she thinks it is a good idea to take the next step.

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