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I thought today was going to be a good day. Finally showered after too long for me to admit. My hair looked nice. Put lotion and perfume on. Ate breakfast. Anxiety before work was minimal. Except for working out or doing yoga, I did all the things that make me happy and relaxed. Get to work, take one long annoying phone call, then go to a meeting where I'm fired. My sales metrics were way below goal for too long. I didn't even realize it was that bad until now. But it's a call center with different projects and they suggested coming to HR in a few days to apply for another project. There's one for FedEx that's not sales heavy at all. I've heard you just help people with their orders, the only metric is handle time. Their next class starts in about two weeks. I'm hoping I can get into that one. If not, hopefully another call center will take me. I'm 25 and that's the first time I've ever been fired. I've had 5 jobs, including that one, and I've always given notice before quitting. I'm hoping I can get something that's strictly customer service, no sales. I just need something fast, bills are coming up. If you're a praying kind of person, pray for me please.

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  • You can do this. Everything happens for a reason; if one door closes, it's usually so that you'll notice the next one opening. Good luck getting that job, I'm sure you'll do fine!

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I think a lot of my problems with social interaction come down to my low self-esteem. The fear of speaking, difficulty to trust people, letting people push me around. I wonder how long it will take me to like myself. I've been going to therapy for, what, four years? But I haven't made much progress on self-esteem and I know I can't rely on my therapist forever. And I hear that the actual self-worth should come from me alone and can't be given by others so how much can I lean on my therapist anyway? But even when I try, I just feel so inferior. There are some awesome people that I admire and I keep feeling that I'm less than them because I'm nothing like them. I know that it's stupid to compare yourself to others, but this bothers me so much because I really wish to be friends with some of those people or people like them. I'm scared that they won't like me because I'm not like them and I don't have any cool skills like they do. I just want to have friends, but I know I shouldn't let that affect my self-image either. But I feel really lonely anyway.

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  • If your therapist hasn't helped after 4 years, it may be time to find a new therapist. Not every therapist is the same, and you might connect better with a different one. As for needing to find self worth on your own, yes, that's partially true, but people can help you realize it. You're part of the way there, knowing you shouldn't compare yourself to others. It's okay to let people motivate you to do better or inspire you; Michael Jackson said 'study the greats to become greater.' If someone is better than you at something, consider it an opportunity to learn from them rather than getting yourself down about not being at that level. People won't like you less because of your skills or talents or lack thereof. People will like you for your personality. Your worth is not based on what you can do; it's based on who you are. And friends- real friends- will love you for that; regardless of how you see yourself.

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I wish my mom would quit putting me down all the time. I feel like every thing I get excited about, every plan I have, every dream I want to make happen, she shoots them all down and tells me nothing will work, it's not worth it, it's not possible, etc. I'm just tired of her negativity. I'm tired of her making me feel discouraged and keeping me from wanting to even try. She's my mom, she's supposed to support me and lift me up, not criticize me and tear me down.

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  • If you go on reddit, try reading the subreddit "raised by narcissists" and see if you fit in the description. Then you may be able to talk to people there who will understand you, and maybe find a group for online help -- and maybe even some people who had to deal with the legal side of things who can give you a direction.

  • Maybe it's her idea of supporting you. Maybe she has failed so often in her past that she now thinks people can't expect anything from life, and constant failure taught her to fear hoping for too much because rejection is so painful. Maybe she subconsciously wants to spare you that pain by teaching you to not expect anything. It's definitely very wrong, but I think I've seen this type of behaviour in people before and it helped me to know (or at least assume) that they didn't hate me, they just expressed their love in a very bad manner.

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I'm scared of relationships because my parents' relationship always made me feel unsafe. They argued about even smallest things - one of them first misinterpreted the other and got offended or angry, and then they both just refused to understand. It was constant, at least a few times every day. I was always on guard, fearing that a fight might break out at any time. I was also scared of expressing thoughts that conflicted theirs because I wanted to avoid possible conflicts. Now I'm scared that my own relationships will be like what I just described and that I'll never find someone I feel emotionally safe with.

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  • Same. I constantly use my parent's divorce to justify my celibacy and refusal to date others. I know things don't last anymore, not in this day and age. If a marriage, a "sacred bond" between two people can't even make it past a couple years, what makes me think a casual boyfriend/girlfriend will?

  • wow, that sounds terrible OP. You might consider therapy. You will need to develop skills to properly communicate in a relationship, cause clearly your parents will not be able to teach you any of them!

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Sometimes I wish I was born rich

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  • I just wish my family was above the poverty line

  • Rich who?

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aku nak sgt ckp ngan kau walaupun sekejap aku nak sgt ws kau mcm org lain aku nak buat kau senyum aku nak sgt kenal ngan kau aku nak tgk kau hari2 aku nak kau tau aku sayang sgt kat kau aku nak confess kat kau yg aku sayang sgt kat kau tapi semua aku boleh mimpi je sebab aku tau kau terlalu perfect bagi aku hari2 aku bayangkan kau kenapa hari2 aku sedih sebab aku tau aku takkan dapat kau aku sedih tinggal lagi bape bulan kau nak tinggalkan aku aku takut tak dapat tgk kau lagi aku just nak kau tau aku sayang sgt kat kau

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  • Uak tak tags gnayas uak uat uak kan?

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My friend's sister died today. She overdosed. The saddest part is, everyone is so surprised. She was only 17, top of her class, had her future all lined up, very straight edge. She wasn't just some junkie who overdid it. I just can't stop wondering why. Why did this happen? Why did she do it? Why didn't she survive? I can't imagine the terrible loss my friend is suffering. I have a sister who's the same age as his, they were in the same class; I can't imagine losing her right now, so suddenly and unexpectedly. I wish I had any words at all to console him or comfort him, but what can you say? What can anyone possibly tell someone who has lost so much that would help them in any way?

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  • I bet they cut the Oxy with Fentanyl. Fentanyl can be super easy to OD on and it's cheaper and acts similar to Oxy. It is happening so often too. I have gone to one too many OD funerals. I'm starting to feel Singapore had it right. Execute the dealers. Is it any less a murder if a man kills a woman with a pill then with a gun?

  • I don't know what to say, that it's ok to cry coz you loss some important part , but when you can not see her doesn't mean that she is gone, she still alive, the way you want to remember her, in the heart.

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Some people like to fool themselves. I was married for 7 years, between 22 and 29 years old. It was a bad situation and I'm not going there again. So, move forwards a few years, I met this woman just 3 years younger than I am. We're dating and everything is going okay. But from the start I told her "I won't marry you. I have my place, you have yours; you can spend some days at my place, I can spend some days at yours, but eventually I will want a few days for myself at my own place, and marriage is out of question". She said "oh that's okay, it's a good compromise, plus I make more money than you so I don't need a new place to stay". Now, we've been in this relationship for almost 2 years. But then she starts saying things like "we could join our stuff in one apartment and rent the other" and I'm like "you remember I said NO MARRIAGE AT ALL?" But she says "it's not marriage, it's for practical reasons". She know FULL WELL that "living together" counts as marriage for legal purposes in our country. So I told her "no, we're not doing that". Now she's fucking MAD at me. I'll end this relationship, as it is not good for anyone anymore, and I'm sure she'll paint me as an asshole to her friends and family. But fuck that. I TOLD HER two years ago, when we started dating. NO. MARRIAGE. AT. ALL. Why won't people listen?

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  • It's kind of stupid of you to be like 'my first marriage sucked so I'll never get married again'. But you did tell her in the beginning what your intentions were, so she shouldn't really be mad... although maybe what she wanted changed over the course of two years, and/or she was hoping you had changed your mind. A lot of people say they'll never marry again after a divorce. She probably feels like she's not good enough to change your mind, like you don't love her enough to marry her or even live together with her. My feelings would be hurt too.

  • First: I don't think you're the asshole here and you're doing the right thing if you leave her. But I can also understand her. It was okay for her when you told her right at the beginning that you don't want all that, because at that point she also didn't want all that; but her wants and needs simply changed over time. Maybe she now just generally want marriage more, maybe she fell in love with you in a way that she never could have dreamed of, and because of that she now hopes and thinks that you also changed your mind and love her enough to overcome your old trauma. The fact that you don't simply hurts her too much to be logical now, if your love doesn't get returned the way you want to you don't just step back and say "he told me from the start so it's okay" (you could, but most people can't). Relationships don't work like a job offer where you can simply say "you know what you got yourself into when signing the contract", because when you "sign" the "relationship contract" at the beginning, you're likely a completely different person or in a completely different emotional state. And yes, many women also go in there ignoring when a man tells them it's never going to end the way they want to in hopes of changing the man; it's debatable whether this is foolish or not because I actually know more cases in which it worked than cases in which it didn't. I can only advise you to be as considerate as you can be with her, don't feel bad if she puts all the blame on you; she probably only does it because deep down she thinks it's her fault you don't want to marry her.

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im in a communal type situation its supose to be a home for me and my children but its not a home its my junkie boyfreinds brothers place and i feel like a used piece of shit for my bf convenience i know hes lying about stuff but i cant being it up he tells me i got nothing and im just lying i have never felt safe and comfortable hes never assured security and has never been my freind hes always been distant made alot of excuses and lied on where and what he makes me out to be crazy so he can keep his good boy image since his mum and partner live on the same property i have no way out i have no income i have no family to help i have had suicidal thoughts i havent been able to pick myself up this time this hasnt been something anyone would be happy about im sick of feeling nothing and wasted being told i got nothing am nothing i dont have freinds to talk to as im quite private and like my alone time only when i need to be social i have no problem well atleast once apon a time i was this is only the tip of the ice berg i literally feel i have no future and my kids will have no mum 4 years ago i was seeing a much brighter picture and i knew who i was and still am i lived and learned and grew and i appreciated all i had been through but this time i dont think theres any saving me this time i dont think god is even here with me Anymore im slowly withering away theres nothing left of me.

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  • I'm in a similar situation. If you find any answers or feel like getting more in depth let's talk.

  • You will get out of this. Leave your so-called boyfriend and find someone who can actually love you and care for you and your kids.

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I feel that something is really wrong with me, like waves.of depresson.

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